What Makes Your Family?
By Diane Martin
We plan for the arrival of our babies with great attention to every
detail. We take classes, decorate nurseries and begin investment
accounts for their educations. We turn over our homes to their toys, and
our nights to their feedings. As children enter our lives they assume
the spot light in a staring role. We do need to remember, however, that
children are not the only ingredients of a family.
There is no doubt about the enormous energy involved in successful
parenting. Nor about the importance of guiding our children so that they
may grow to be balanced, moral, healthy and happy individuals. The task
is daunting. As we strive to wear the many hats involved in obtaining
this goal one hat can easily be left to gather dust on the shelf. That
is the hat which cares for the marriage.
As we muddle through everyday problems and challenges our children
present it is easy to forget that our spouse is a key ingredient to
maintaining that family. The importance of working on your connection as
husband and wife is as important as finding those foods your children
will actually eat. Often through shear exhaustion and lack of time the
adults in the home end up being the last priority. The end result is
that the basic needs of the parents are ignored. Over a long period the
marriage can not help but suffer.
Working together, having things in common, fulfilling each other's
needs, and staying connected with your spouse is as important to your
children as it is to yourself. To focus only on the children's needs in
a family, jeopardizes the family itself.
With this in mind the expense of a baby-sitter for a quiet evening out,
or even an adult holiday seems a small price to pay for a solid
foundation for the entire family. The price the children pay when a
marriage is not strong is a large one.
Don't pay the price the hard way... nurture not just the children but
your entire family with as much conscious effort and choice you make
daily with the kids.
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